Honesty in 'Fitness' is Dead!

....and I 100% mean this.  Think I'm kidding?  Go to Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and count how many people are telling you they live the perfect life; how many 'death by selfies' superfood pics do you see? How many memes do you read telling you to 'Train till it Hurts' (the single most dumbest thing I've heard btw) 
I'm gonna put myself out on a limb here and say that around 90% of these 'inspirational' posts or people who portray the perfect life make you feel like shit! Because they're not inspirational!  
You ask yourself, "I wish I had the commitment to only drink wheatgrass smoothies, eat quinoa salads and spend 6hrs in the gym every day!" The truth is most people don't, including the ones who say they do. 

If social media was more honest, there would be posts of people smashing a fistful of chocolate digestives because they had a shitty day (that was me); scooping out lemon curd with their finger, straight from the jar because it's f###in delicious (that was me too).

The REAL truth is that we are human. 
I accept that once or twice a week I'm going to make decisions that I know I shouldn't, and I also know that the guys I train will make similar decisions. So I don't judge. We get our shit together and we get back on the road.


The things I value most in any person is honesty and integrity, two (of many) things that I inherited from my dad and am eternally grateful for and why I feel 100% comfortable in telling people how it is really going to be.

You are going to have setbacks, they're inevitable.  You want to lose the weight that you put on over the last 12-18 months? Then to do it in a sustainable way, expect it to take 12-18 months to lose it and keep it off. Will that be all pictures of green shakes and sweaty smiling faces? At first, maybe, but when the novelty wears off there will be low, shitty days too. Setbacks are inevitable, log it in a journal, reflect, deal with it and move on.

The takeaway of this, is not to fall into the obsession of comparing and trying to look like someone else on a social media post....who may have been photo shopped anyway.
It is not easy, it takes time, a shit ton of effort, commitment and persistence.  




 

 
 


 

'When you're dead, you're dead!'

The most of my 20s and early 30s were focused on being safe; providing stability for my family and working every hour to keep the boat steady.  I hated it.  

I feel empathy for every single person out there who is living to be safe and provide stability for others... 

....but what's the message you are giving? What will be YOUR legacy?

Don't take risks?

Don't do what makes you happy?

Don't test how far you can actually push yourself?

When you're dead, you're dead. The saddest thing in the world is to get to the end of the road and feel like you could've done more, like you didn't fulfil your opportunity in this meat suit.  

Do something that will inspire others. STARTING NOW!

 

The Importance of Accountability

In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently." Tony Robbins

We've all met someone who declared they will be a huge success, famous and earning a ton of money when they 'grow up'.  When you ask how they will achieve this, the answer is rarely a detailed plan that covers each phase of the process and what possible pitfalls there may be, it's more like '.....er.......I'll be a singer'. A little flippant, I know but you get my point. Success doesn't come by chance and the perfect plan amounts to nothing if you're not prepared to follow it through.
I used to really take it personally when a client would contact me after a week or two of training and say things like, "I'm not feeling any better and haven't lost any weight" or "I've been training 'x' number of weeks and I haven't set a personal best since week 1" or what I call 'non-emergency emergencies' (last minute reasons that they can't attend e.g. "I've had a long day") , I'm sure other trainers or coaches have heard it before.  What I did though was spend hours and hours trying to put my finger on why they weren't getting the results. The programme that they would be following was covering everything that was picked up on assessment, I was giving regular calls or emails to see how they were doing with the nutrition side of it, their callorie and macro allowance was set to promote the adaptation to the individual goal. Something was just not right.
My next step was to ask them to send me a log of what they did over the last 3 days. I find this realistically easy to do with any client. When I got this information back I would see things like, 'skipped breakfast so had a huge lunch to make up for it' or 'only did part of a workout as I ran out of time'.  I couldn't believe that I was being asked why their plan wasn't working when it turns out they weren't even following the thing! I get most people in the gym twice a week, sometimes only once though. For that session I am totally accountable. I write the programme, I make changes when needed, I make the calls on whether to push hard or ease back during a workout.
Outside of the gym however, it's all you!
You decide what you eat, you decide whether you're going to do workouts I write for you to do on your own, you decide what you'll be doing at the weekend.  It is because of this that I make the decision that if I feel a client isn't showing signs that they are fully committed to the cause, I ask them to train somewhere else. I admit that not all situations are the same and we may have to do some real support work to uncover certain issues, but I think we can all tell when someone is bullsh***ing. If you put in half-arsed efforts, expect half-arsed results.......and get those half-arsed results from someone else, not from me.  
That goes for all walks of life, not just training. Name me one successful person who only tried a little bit to be successful, who didn't sacrifice anything at all to get to where they were/still are.  You won't get far.

Be accountable for what you do outside of the gym. It's ok to mess up, everyone does. It's not ok to look at others for excuses and kid yourself you did everything when you didn't.
People can tell.